tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post2223682750915842325..comments2023-10-19T00:31:30.098+09:00Comments on Always leaving things unfinishe: Selfish cuntCorinnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-55586146111344725092012-03-09T19:09:23.612+09:002012-03-09T19:09:23.612+09:00*sigh* sadly, yes. Damned if you do... Damned if y...*sigh* sadly, yes. Damned if you do... Damned if you don't. It's hard to find a balance with these things!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-13743845896670233222012-03-09T19:08:36.118+09:002012-03-09T19:08:36.118+09:00You're right, I really do feel that doing it m...You're right, I really do feel that doing it myself is better than the tanties he throws. And harsh is good, I need harsh sometimes! Thank you!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-36621323070587626252012-03-09T19:07:48.416+09:002012-03-09T19:07:48.416+09:00Well, I do do my fair amount of bitching and compl...Well, I do do my fair amount of bitching and complaining, I just never really write about it. ;)<br />He is a major dick a lot of the time, but he does have good days.Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-45188628942541284002012-03-09T19:06:44.691+09:002012-03-09T19:06:44.691+09:00He does indeed. He got his act together by lunch t...He does indeed. He got his act together by lunch time thank God!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-61428982522858041552012-03-09T12:26:41.976+09:002012-03-09T12:26:41.976+09:00hmm...don't think you can keep using chonaniti...hmm...don't think you can keep using chonanitis as an excuse for everything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-41035450572004282382012-03-08T13:05:14.611+09:002012-03-08T13:05:14.611+09:00I think you could both benifit from seeing a marri...I think you could both benifit from seeing a marriage counsellor. It sounds like you are very stressed and often unhappy. Sometimes a bit of outside support is all that's needed to smooth things out. It would be very frustrating to be pregnant and to not feel supported by your partner.The Culture Machinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06747900148480436252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-16812249670815434092012-03-08T00:53:43.627+09:002012-03-08T00:53:43.627+09:00If hubby is such a loser, why do you keep letting ...If hubby is such a loser, why do you keep letting him put buns in your oven?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-28821037712804647742012-03-07T08:39:47.622+09:002012-03-07T08:39:47.622+09:00Who thinks ohh have a kid at home, that is so much...Who thinks ohh have a kid at home, that is so much easier than taking them to school? esp when it's raining? (thelentilweaver)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-20005775319979750722012-03-06T21:42:45.801+09:002012-03-06T21:42:45.801+09:00So glad to be reading the Monday post on a Tuesday...So glad to be reading the Monday post on a Tuesday. Not gonna try to offer any relationship advice... Now you've got me thinking that blogging really can save lives.Willhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09661426960326013304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-59213234285877030132012-03-06T04:26:05.618+09:002012-03-06T04:26:05.618+09:00Ow. I guess the next step is even shittier. He'...Ow. I guess the next step is even shittier. He'll say "Don't baby me, I can do it on my own. Stop doing so much for me." You'll be happy and let him do things on his own. But later you'll receive a call "It's nice, that I may do this, but I suck at it. So you better do it." (true story!)<br />Just being willing to do stuff, doesn't mean success. Sadly.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00315960791493911268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-44656694923506355632012-03-05T20:34:28.045+09:002012-03-05T20:34:28.045+09:00Gotta agree with some of this advice. Let him do i...Gotta agree with some of this advice. Let him do it for himself. Every time I read one of your rants about him being useless there's some line like, "I'll just do it myself later. It'll be easier." I'm sure he's worked out that's what'll happen. It's not mature, but it's all 'win' from his point of view. If you don't want him to act like a kid then you shouldn't act like his mother.<br /><br />Sorry, that sounded harsher than I meant it to. But there's little point bitching about how he *should* change just because it's the adult thing to do. It doesn't seem like that strategy's going so well thus far. You've got to give him a real incentive. Also, don't make him feel stupid for asking stuff you think he should already know; he's clearly got more than his share of pride and ego, and if you make him feel stupid every time he tries then that's another excuse not to try.<br /><br />Christ, I can be a judgemental tosser sometimes. I'll get off my high-horse now. Excuse me...kamohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10785763841038321633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-18276476009046240832012-03-05T19:08:33.458+09:002012-03-05T19:08:33.458+09:00Of course we're useless at stuff too, it's...Of course we're useless at stuff too, it's not our country and not our language, which are better excuses than being born first son! And of course you're better at doing both, but unless you make him, he will never improve. When dd1 was ten months old dh was a sham dad for 6 weeks between jobs while I was working two jobs. Turned out to be a great experience all around. He figured out how hard the parenting gig was without having me looking over his shoulder to see when he messed up. Of course, I'm not suggesting he quit his job, but if you're not available, he'll have to learn.Xanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455990012935032853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-26221379116034517972012-03-05T18:12:54.481+09:002012-03-05T18:12:54.481+09:00Damn. I would blow my top living with a guy like t...Damn. I would blow my top living with a guy like this.<br />All those questions about easy things.<br />Jeez, I feel for you.<br />Not sure what to say other than he needs some kind of wake-up call.<br />Here you are, preggers, bringing in the bread, not bitchin' or complainin' that you're having to work even though you feel sick, bringing up a kid, blimey, he needs to get his act together.<br />You have WV and this goes against my commenting policy but you are worth it.<br />I really hope he starts realising just how good he has it with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-66406421229842295792012-03-05T18:08:19.977+09:002012-03-05T18:08:19.977+09:00Yup, I think you had the right idea! Parenting is ...Yup, I think you had the right idea! Parenting is hard enough without some other fucker making it more difficult!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-85590041134586330212012-03-05T18:07:48.807+09:002012-03-05T18:07:48.807+09:00Oh no, it's a totally valid comment! Although ...Oh no, it's a totally valid comment! Although funny you should mention toilet habits, he wasn't toilet trained until he was 4! Might have something to do with it, his mum literally wiped his arse for way too long!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-82284068690152813372012-03-05T18:06:28.902+09:002012-03-05T18:06:28.902+09:00Right, even for a useless Japanese man, this morni...Right, even for a useless Japanese man, this morning was an amazing effort of uselessness!<br /><br />He didn't apologise but took me out for lunch so I have forgiven him for today. Would be so much easier if they just behaved like normal people in the beginning!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-41667433705605538562012-03-05T18:05:18.826+09:002012-03-05T18:05:18.826+09:00Hmmmm essence of Ryota curry... served cold... Now...Hmmmm essence of Ryota curry... served cold... Now there's an idea! <br />I'm glad the blog world will be my character witnesses too (again with the Law & Order... :) )<br /><br />He redeemed himself with a nice lunch out and he paid our car insurance which I have no fucking clue how to do so I'll let him pass this time without dismembering him. Don't put ideas like that in my head!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-7465630845202079112012-03-05T18:01:40.665+09:002012-03-05T18:01:40.665+09:00Good grief! I'm totally useless most of the ti...Good grief! I'm totally useless most of the time, especially in the morning, but he takes it to a new level.Sarahfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17570295122864601160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-81200780982498490882012-03-05T17:03:28.971+09:002012-03-05T17:03:28.971+09:00This is actually very good advice! I wish I could,...This is actually very good advice! I wish I could, but sometimes it just isn't worht it for me, aka I'm lazy.<br />Maybe because I bitch a lot about the things he's useless at, but I'm useless at a lot too and I need to feel like I'm the one who has it together with the house/work balance. I guess I should cut him some slack in that I'm used to juggling the two. <br />I think he is improving slightly, it may take many years and near-divorce arguments before he's fully trained though!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-1291645463416015432012-03-05T16:59:50.709+09:002012-03-05T16:59:50.709+09:00It was pretty crap actually!
He actually did get ...It was pretty crap actually!<br /><br />He actually did get his act together, in his own mental way and took me out for Italian for lunch, so he knew he was being a dick obviously.<br /><br />But you are my idol, it takes strength to do what you've done!Corinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837500129573276985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-14388699827332562012-03-05T13:56:44.666+09:002012-03-05T13:56:44.666+09:00Does Ryota need someone to wipe his ass for him to...Does Ryota need someone to wipe his ass for him too? Sorry! I know that's an awful comment, but goodness, bless you for dealing with all that chonanitis!Margarethttp://ganbarimarugo.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-34045022315567341562012-03-05T13:27:14.576+09:002012-03-05T13:27:14.576+09:00jesus. Sorry Ryota but that is useless with a capi...jesus. Sorry Ryota but that is useless with a capital U. I can't believe he chose to keep Ash at home the whole day instead of getting through half an hour of really hard shit like getting him dressed and driving him to kinder. <br />I think you should have a crisis at the English school at one and mail Ryota with the shopping list and tell him to take Ash. <br />Hope you're feeling better.<br />xxxgaijinwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713629788800228270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-73136807878062050192012-03-05T12:59:58.054+09:002012-03-05T12:59:58.054+09:00"He was probably still in shock from all the ..."He was probably still in shock from all the responsibility placed on his weary shoulders, I know, but fuck me!"<br /><br />If you snap and cut him up and feed him to his own relatives in some curry or Niku jaga...(it'll maybe taste weird so just say it's kangaroo meat)...<br /><br />No one will blame you. This blog can be your defense teams ace in the hole.<br /><br />I think the "I thought I married an adult male but it was an 8 year old boy in an adult costume...so I fucking snapped of course" defense might work. If there are any women on the Jury your home free!!!Chrishttp://badboyinjapan.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-73268480009020280822012-03-05T12:18:40.226+09:002012-03-05T12:18:40.226+09:00Okay, so it's too late to change his upbringin...Okay, so it's too late to change his upbringing, but would it be possible to force him to fend for himself more? Yes, you will have to deal with more whining and temper tantrums, but better to get it done now than after the baby arrives. On a day like today could you take yourself to a coffee shop for breakfast and set a bunch of alarms in his room, perhaps one at the back of the closet forcing him to get out of the futon to turn it off, and let him figure out for himself or deal with the consequences. Maybe you could invent a private lesson client who would be at the coffee shop with you, preventing you from answering the phone. Honestly, I know they are raised to be incompetent idiots, but they can changed if forced. My fil was completely horrible and useless when my dh was a kid, but after all the kids left, mil stopped doing anything for him. Now, he can cook, do laundry, take care of a baby, my husband can't believe he's the same man. Why wait? You are pregnant working mom living in his country, he's got to help you out here. And if he won't, then make sure that coffee is steaming when you throw the open flask at him!Xanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455990012935032853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533986275392579293.post-59094151084038156102012-03-05T11:46:26.120+09:002012-03-05T11:46:26.120+09:00Sounds like a crap morning C.
Hope you are feeling...Sounds like a crap morning C.<br />Hope you are feeling better. <br /><br />Hope that R gets his act together (one can wish right?)<br /><br />Of course if it gets too much for you... there is always my way. LOLOLOLSarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08463917295463273321noreply@blogger.com