Iyaaaa yo! is a favorite phrase of my son's and basically means "nooooo!!!!!" he uses it in a variety of situations and at various times of the day, it never ceases to get on my nerves.
Anyway, I hope you all had a lovely new year break! We're nearing the end of a week of the 3 of us being together, and do you know, by some miracle, it has been a very peaceful and enjoyable holiday! Usually I dread extended periods of time where Ryota is off work because of the bickering and general annoyance of having an extra body around the house making a mess, but this time has been good! We got into oosouji early and spent a solid 3 days of hard core sorting, throwing away and cleaning. And it was all the cleaning that I usually can't be arsed doing, like wiping the grime off the insides of window panes and stuff, gross, but very satisfying once it was all done. Of course Ryota being the hoarder that he is started to go through my rubbish bags and I kept hearing exclamations of "why are you throwing THIS away?!" and "hmmm I'm sure I could yahoo auction this..." I became a total annoying Japanese wife and made him stop immediately, I enforced a rule that unless he sells or finds a place for the things he wanted to keep that we would never use, it was going. He agreed and stashed a whole heap of crap in the back of the car that he claims he's going to sell. I'm so chucking it out after he goes to work tomorrow.
We didn't do too much over our break, lots of cleaning, a bit of shopping, a temple trip to ask the gods to give my baby 10 fingers, 10 toes and less of a tendency for tantrums unlike his/her big brother, and a lot of relaxing and going out for dinner. Not helping my expanding waistline but loving not having to cook!
As for my stalker, no more phone calls or comments, so unknown, if you're still reading: thank you for your apology, and for you know, not stalking me anymore... Thank you for all your lovely comments and support as well, I seriously considered stopping blogging for 2012 but am very glad I didn't. Let's not be too harsh on unknown either, if it was a genuine apology then I'm grateful, we all go through rough patches and some people take it out in different ways, I've heard this guy's voice and he sounds like he could be an intelligent, articulate person, I just hope whatever he was going through is better. Hell we all go a bit nuts sometimes, my nuts moment was in the midst of my heavy drinking days after I downed a bottle of vodka from the conbini and ventured to my local park intending to kill myself, of course i passed out before I could even give it a crack, plus Japanese parks aren't exactly death traps, but it was a pretty dark moment! So yeah, New year, new start and all that eh!
So far 2012 has started off well for me, not too many resolutions... do a 10km run after the baby is born, here's hoping I'm not still bleeding all over the course! Eww, sorry, but it's true...
One bit of sad news I can't stop thinking about is my friend who was due to have her baby at the end of this month has just found out that her baby won't live after he is born. Heartbreaking, and of course me being a dickhead who had no idea, sent her a happy new year mail saying "our babies will be born in the same year, they can be friends!" you know those times where you just wish so hard that you could take something you said or wrote back? Yeah totally one of those. I really feel for my friend and just don't know what to say to make her feel better.
But apart from that, things are going well, Ash is as genki as ever, Ryota's grumpy level is set on low for now and I've finally got some energy back after months of feeling permanently like I wanted to sleep 24 hours a day.
I hope 2012 will be a great year for you all, I'm looking forward to reading everyone's blogs, hopefully finding new blogs, and writing lots myself!
Happy new year!
New reader and commenter, Corinne. Can't recall how I found you but very sad for your marriage situation.ReplyDelete
Anyway, about your friend. Nothing - and I mean NOTHING you can say will help her for a long time. It is the most difficult situation for everyone involved and I have been through this with a friend and a niece. Just don't try to avoid her because she will be feeling so alone and already feels that the world has turned against her. Please don't take anything she says or does personally either as she is likely to either lash out or run and hide without notice.
There are any number of support groups available who will be able to help you help her. However she may not want their help right away, in fact she may even reject them totally, but you may be able to use some of their advice as a friend trying to understand.
I wish you well.
Oh, the hoarding? My method was to bag anything useless and hide the bag for 12 months. If he didn't ask for or look for anything in the bag during that time - O.U.T.
But don't touch MY stuff!!
Am I the 1st in??ReplyDelete
2012's 1st commenter!!!!!
Sorry bout the friends lost baby. You couldn't have known so give yourself a break.......and send me something expensive for being ichibah saisho!!!!!
Happy new year to you too. I'm sorry to hear about your friend, like anonymous says, there's nothing you can say or do to make her feel better, and you had no idea what was going on. I had something similar when I sent a friend a jokey mail about a disasterous date saying something like "I'm going to die alone", and she mailed me back telling me that I must not have heard that her mother had just passed away. I was mortified, but my embarrassment was nothing compared to her grief, and she barely registered I'd put my foot in it. Don't be too hard on yourself.ReplyDelete
I hope you don't get any more creepy phone calls and Anonymous will realise that it's wrong to ring people up and scare them.ReplyDelete
Even though the Doctors reckon your friend's baby will die I hope things work out differently and the baby lives. My Auntie was supposed to have died ten years ago of cancer according to Doctors but she's still alive now!!!
I don't deserve this forgiveness or kindness at all, so I am grateful to you for that.ReplyDelete
Please take care, and best to you and Ryotaro and the kids. Peace, and thank you.
What happened to the Sex Without Borders blog?ReplyDelete
Happy New Year!!!ReplyDelete
I am really sorry to hear about your friend. My six-week old nephew died just before Christmas. My sister is heartbroken. There is really nothing I can do, but keep calling her and listen. Just don't avoid your friend, make sure she knows you are there for when she wants to reach out. Maybe don't talk about your pregnancy that much. I'm sure she wishes you all the best, but it must be hard seeing others. You'll find the right thing to do.
The bloody iyaaa stage - to be closely followed by the unchi and onara stage. Ganbare. Did you trash the stuff in Ryota's boot?ReplyDelete
Sorry to hear about your friend. You weren't to know but I can imagine how shit it must feel now that you do :( Your poor friend. Knowing that at the moment she still has a baby alive inside but it can't survive on the outside must just be the most heartbreaking thing to bear. I wish her strength for the weeks, months and years to come.
Oooh, sorry Chris. You peaked too soon. heheReplyDelete
I get the expensive gift!!
Happy New Year!ReplyDelete
Haven't commented on your blog much, but I do read along~
I need to get into the oosouji thing too... though with Japanese apartments having the thinnest walls and no central heating, getting the motivation to start is difficult... I just want to curl up under the kotatsu and sleep. x__x
You lost your stalker? My girlfriend thinks that I’m a stalker. Well, she’s not exactly my girlfriend yet.ReplyDelete
Happy New Year!ReplyDelete
Decluttering is so liberating. If I haven't used it or wore it for two years, it goes in the bin or the recycle shop or it will get passed on to somebody who can make good use of it. Though there are always those moments when you try and look for something that you threw away last year. Why do things only become useful when you no longer have them??
I'm really sorry to hear about your friend's baby. There can be nothing worse than losing a child, but to know you will be losing that child is even more heartbreakingly sad. As others have said, she is going to be dealing with overwhelming grief for a long while yet and you will need to hang in there and be ready to support her.
Sure is nice to be able to actually enjoy being with family.ReplyDelete
Hoarding... the less clutter, the better. Or at least sorted and stacked. That's the theory anyway.
"My girlfriend thinks that I’m a stalker. Well, she’s not exactly my girlfriend yet."
I want a t-shirt and bumper sticker with this. I laughed out loud when I read that :)
HAPPY NEW IYAAAAAA!!!ReplyDelete
Erk, am just catching up on your blog and the best way to explain my reaction is: ∑（0д0）
No really, I'm losing my words. I cannot express myself in English anymore. XD
Anyway, I wish all the best for you and your family in 2012(and onwards!!)
I don't know about you, but I'm banking on this one being much better than the last. ^^)b
Late happy new year to you Corinne!ReplyDelete
I want to mail you about a guest post thingy that I'm thinking about. What's your email? Considering troll, stalkers etc I understand if you don't want to oost it here but plz send me a mail at firstname.lastname@example.org thanks!
Happy New Iyaaayo !(I can so picture him)ReplyDelete
Glad you had nice holidayZ with your family ! My husband's room is a mess I so want to get rid of all his crap but then I will have to get rid of mine too XD
It is very sad for your friend there is nothing you can say saddly , just be there for her and do not feel guilty for not knowing <3