Do you ever get the feeling that every fucker in this place has something to hide??
It could be good or bad but I don't think I've ever met a Japanese person who I've made an opinion (OK judgement, let's be realistic) on and then not to have it totally fucking change in one way or another. I don't even know if this is a good thing or a bad thing, but it's just tiring at times!
I keep finding little things out about people that I just had no idea because they were hiding it for some reason. The reasons are many and varied too, embarrassed, ashamed, humble, "polite." They go on and on.
Or nothing is talked about openly?? My MIL has broken up with her boyfriend (who she's supposed to be marrying in March) because she went to Hawaii. Not because she went without him, just because she went. Fucking crazy cunt, she's dodged a bullet by breaking up with him in my opinion, but she hasn't discussed this openly with anyone in her family apart from me (because apparently gaijin are easy to talk to?? but I suspect more because I ask lots of fucking nosey questions...). All her family are relying on me for the goss because nobody wants to bring it up with her...? Craziness!!
Maybe gaijin really are easier for Japanese peeps to open up to, I had a lady in tears the other day because I told her we should strictly try to stay to talking in English if she wants to improve and she spilled her guts that she can't tell anyone else her secrets so she tells me and doesn't really care if she can speak English, she just wants to get it off her chest... I gotta start charging more, like psychiatrist fees more!
Right, back to work!
Yeah, when I worked in Eikaiwa, I was amazed at the things people would tell me! I had one student that had a love life like a soap opera, and told me all about it every week in her classes. Seems like your MIL had a lucky escape, did he object before she went or just when she came back?
ReplyDeleteYeah, I often thought that Japanese people will tell you stuff in English that they'd never say in Japanese. Weird - I never have a compelling urge to spill my guts in Japanese to people!
ReplyDeleteMe either! opposite if anything, maybe that's just the way the languages go??
DeleteWell, we don't count. And also, you can't faff about in English and sound like you said anything at all, unlike most of Japanese.
ReplyDeleteSo true, and yes we really don't count n the scale of things do we!
DeleteLet's hear more about MIL and her love life! Did she meet someone in Hawaii?
ReplyDeleteYup this is a whole other post, I'll try and get the whole saga up today or tomorrow but he's basically a bit mental poor bloke.
DeleteOH GOD I"M GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING! My husband's family tells me EVERYTHING and then I have to move around it "correctly" to allow the family to know what's going on (for instance my little SIL's suicide attempts or my MIL's sex life) it's nuts!!!! What am I suppose to do with that information??? And then I tell my husband and they just never bring it up. Drives me up the fucking wall!!!!
ReplyDeleteGod I'm glad I'm not the only one, isn't it weird?! I always tell my husband to 'not tell them I told you' but it really isn't necessary because nobody brings it up anyway!
DeleteYeah it's like everyone pretends everything is okay and there never was or never will be a problem. I don't understand it.
DeleteMost adult students want my cock my opinion or both. I hear shit that nobody else does because I am not entangled in the inaka web. My history of violence is well known so they assume it takes away credibility...to do what I don't know but they feel very safe and the stories are mind blowing.
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