Saturday, 26 January 2013

Men and MIL

I'm currently watching every episode of the HBO series 'Six feet under'. If you didn't watch it I suggest you do, I don't like TV that much but I loved Six feet under. I love the characters, the weirdness, the thought-provoking shit, the creepiness and the rawness. It's a little dangerous though, watching it makes me kind of not give a fuck about things, which is even more dangerous somewhere like Japan where randomness and not giving a fuck-ness can see you branded a weirdo for life. Meh, I'll never fit in anyway I guess!

But this post isn't about me going mental and doing random shit, it's about my poor MIL. My mother-in-law is the one person out of my in-laws who I can not only tolerate, but love very much and depend on a great deal. She's awesome in so many ways and it really makes me sad that she's been with so many cuntish men in her life, but then again from what I can tell most men are cunts at some point in their lives (whether they admit to it or not) so her chances were pretty high.

Let's re-cap her man list:

Ryota's dad- Nice enough but slut of the century and general arse when he wants to be

Mr R- Ripped her off of a massive amount of money then dumped her.

Mr S- Was married and flat out told her they could be lovers but he would never be able to leave his wife because she'd clean him out.

And then we have Mr N. The most recent boyfriend and generally a nice guy, but he's depressed and got so many mental issues going on it was just doomed from the beginning.
So they met about 5 years ago and were dating for about 2 years, he lives about 3 hours from us so they were doing semi-long distance because his elderly father lived with him and we have Grandma with us. When I married Ryota they were still dating and he actually gave me a pretty massive cash present to get the school started (he's pretty loaded, not that that takes away the kindness of the gesture at all, just sayin'...). He seems completely normal to the untrained eye, but actually he was very jealous and weird about travelling. He doesn't like travelling and he didn't want MIL to go anywhere overseas, he wanted her to go with him on trips around Japan. Why I'm not sure but that's just the way it was.

So after he gave me a wad of cash they pretty much split up straight away, because he was going through depression and didn't want to burden anyone and cut off all contact. But MIL rarely saw him anyway and to be honest I think she was kind of glad. Fast-forward 3 years and I was literally in the middle of giving birth to Bailey, when I asked her for some gossip to take my mind of the pain and she comes out with, "Well actually, I think N and I are getting back together... and getting married.." This was a total fucking shock because I hadn't heard his name for so long but apparently they had been talking and he was on depression meds so he was normal.

So after Bailey was born he started coming around again, helped out at the school's Halloween party and would stay some weekends. Obviously MIL knew he wasn't totally right in the head but she told me she was worried about growing old alone and more importantly, poor. Not so romantic but I can't blame her, which is why I'm already squirrelling away my own personal (secret) retirement fund in case some fucker of a man wants to fuck me over and leave me out in the cold.

Anyway, things were going well for them, and then I went to Australia for Chrissy and MIL and SIL decide to go to Hawaii for 5 days. Totally reasonable I think, mother and daughter going to Hawaii for a few days. She asked her boyfriend is it was OK which I thought was fucking ridiculous in itself but she's quite polite and his response was a kind of deadpan "OK."

So MIL was at the airport and he sent her an email saying "You're going to do whatever you want with your life, so I hope you're happy..." What the fuck is with men and their fucking mental issues fucking up everything around them!? It makes me so fucking angry!! But my MIL is awesome, so she turned off her phone and hopped on the plane. Thank God too, I would have lost so much respect for her had she not gone because of him.

So he didn't call her and was really cold when she got back and she kind of saw how mental he actually is, which is so good because had she married him it would have been too late. Although they were supposed to get married on her birthday in March and they had rings and everything. SIL and  have decided to take her to Kobe for an over-priced yet amazing lunch and shopping day for her birthday, because no matter how mental the guy is, you're bound to be a bit down on the day that was supposed to be your wedding day.

Men just fucking piss me off sometimes, they are giving me very little reason to see why we need them. So many useless fuckers out there, just give me the sperm and get me out, please!

27 comments:

  1. Now Corrine, bear in mind we men have stories of our own about the women in our lives. I won't deny you your experience, but rather than make this a gender issue let me remind you of 'Sturgeon's Law': "90% of everything is crap." True of men; true of women.

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    1. That's true, but I challenge you to get some kind of the data on all the fucked up thingas that are done in the world, it has to be men on top!!

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    2. Only because we've been on top. I teach in elementary in Canada, when not in Japan, and as women outnumber men about 3:1... Anyway, sit among men who think you are cool, get them drunk, and ask them something like, "Who do you trust more at work, the men or the women?" Brace yourself.

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  2. He he I love your blog. I'm just a random person with no connection to Japan who loves great writing. Very entertaining.....keep it up please!

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  3. whaaaat.... what a crazy stupid shit... good on her for avoiding that nutter... and good on you for taking her out and treating her on her b-day ^_- it is pretty nice that you have someone that you like amongst your inlaws ^_-

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    1. I'd hate it if nobody did something special for me on a day like that so I really want to spoil her, she deserves it!

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  4. That is really shite. Poor MIL. It must be hard in Japan when you are older... well even out of your 20s, because divorce so much less common. You are left with widowers or total losers.

    I know I had no trouble meeting guys there but when you add single and sane to the list it pretty much goes down to zero.

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    1. So true, the felf over dreggs of society for older divorced women, it totally blows!

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  5. Where would you like the sperm?

    Hips? Mouth?....all over the place?

    "I would have lost so much respect for her had she not gone because of him."

    Your a big softy. All heart !! ;)

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    1. Oh noooo, just jizz in the cup and move along thanks!

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  6. Poor MIL, I hope a nice, normal man turns up, kiss a few frogs and stuff... It sounds like she's surrounded by weirdos, with your SIL and all. But, in the interest of equality, women can be equally nutso and odd, although my inner feminist objects to that idea. I have always been told to make sure I can support myself, no matter what, because women can so often be left holding the baby.

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    1. I really hope so too, it's unlikely though, she's very un-Japanese ,probably why we actually get along!
      I know women can be fucked up, but surely men do it more often!?

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  7. love love loved 6 feet under and the finale is going to blow you away.
    that is all.
    jan. in nagasaki.

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    1. Already watched all 6 feet under, just going through again but I can't actually remember the finale that clearly except for the end sequence but totally looking forward to it again!!

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  8. Poor MIL. :( It must be hard being older and in the dating game here. YoU'll have to let her borrow Ash for her 'charm point' she'll have 'em lining up! :)

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    1. Now there's something I can help with! I said I'd try and set her up with a gaijin guy so she doens't have to deal with the stuffy Japanese men but then I realised the gaijin men here would probably be even worse!!

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  9. Thank you for filling us in about MIL.
    6 ft. under is probably the best---one of them anyway--American drama series ever. EVER!!

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    1. Glad you agree, I really do love it!

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  10. Well, for most older men there's a reason why they aren't already off the market.
    It's a good thing your MIL is strong and she has you and your SIL to make her birthday a special one nontheless. :-)

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    1. He was a little too good to be true (as in not bad looking, wealthy-ih, ex-cop with pension etc.) but now we know why I guess. And yup, she is strong I'm sure she'll be fine, thank you!

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  11. I've seen housewives with some hard miles on them slaving away at minimum wage jobs so their college kids can have spending money, spending money that just seems to get wasted on empty luxuries.

    The mind boggles. If she really is more worried about growing old alone than growing old poor, why did she go to Hawaii? Unless, of course, her version of poor is my version of relatively well-off. Alcohol, tobacco - things like that are luxuries in my book, 'specially when you is po'.



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    1. I think she has that fear, but honestly, she's not a forward thinker, she has absolutely no savings and if she was smart she'd be saving the money she has now for retirement, but she's not and she really will be fucked in 10 years, I hope things have changed for her by then.

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  12. Not really related to the post, but nice to see that you're back in posting a bit from time to time. The little babies are worst the first couple of months, aren't they...?

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    1. God I know you can relate, fuck me I forgot just how the little bastards suck every waking (and sleeping) moment out of you life!!

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  13. Damn she was with a load of cheaters :-( that sucks! Good for her for going anyway! She should have mailed him a dildo and a letter saying "Please find your balls".

    Wrapped nicely of course ;-)

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    1. Oh my god I wonder how he'd react?! I'd encourage her to do it but he's a bit of a nut (obviously) with an old 'samurai soul' who'd likely come and burn our houses down then kill himself or something! haha

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