Things are definitely reaching it here! At the moment I think every single family member is pissed with me apart from MIL, but even she might have something to whinge about.
Let's do it in order shall we...
Ryota- So last night I got home at 8pm to (as usual) a cold kitchen, kids not bathed and started fixing dinner. I don't really mind that much, plus if he did manage to do dinner and bath without me the colossal amount of whinging that would follow just totally wouldn't be worth it, but sometimes it would be nice. Anyway, I start getting dinner and I put our salad on the table (dinner is very easy when you're dieting!) then Ryota says he wants natto and some other crap, which granted I do always forget to put on the table. So I say, admittedly in a slight bitch tone, "Well, if you got all this stuff ready before I came home it wouldn't be a problem eh!" And that was it. Silent treatment all night and then again all day. Not like I really give a fuck, and I know what he's thinking, he's playing the 'But I have to look after Bailey card,' but fuck him, I look after him all day and still manage to get shit done. Anyway, we'll see how that turns out after he gets home. I hate that if he's not talking to me I really don't have anyone to talk to, that power REALLY annoys me. Although I should just enjoy the peace, it does get me down which is why I usually cave and apologise first....
Dog fucker- Dog fucker is a general fucking slacker, if I go to drop Bailey off she acts as if she's doing me a favour with her fucking attitude and it shits me, so since Bailey will be starting kindy in July, I'm milking her for every yen I fork over to the miserable cunt and have been leaving 30 minutes before lessons start even when I don't have that much to prep. I think Ryota said something to her about being bitchy because she's been giving me the cold shoulder (more than normal chilliness) and last night as I was getting out of the bath with Bailey fucking ran away like a little bitch because she didn't want to help me dry him while I got dressed. Ryota was at Grandma's house at that point as well so they were all over there while I was struggling to dry squirming baby without letting me rude bits flop out too much. Not a major task but in Japan if someone is available they usually catch and dry for you while you get dressed. I had a bit of a weep at that point because I felt like I was being ganged up against and felt all alone and shit. Silly but that's the emotional train wreck I am these days. Fuck me I need to man up!
Grandma- Grandma constantly gives Ashton snacks when he gets home from kindy (At about 5:30pm) which means he never eats dinner and just ends up eating fucking junk then gets hungry again and eats more junk later while I throw out the perfectly good bento or meal I've made for him. It fucking shits me and the other day I lost it at Grandma and said "Stop giving him snacks for fuck's sake!" I think Ryota had a go at her too because when I went over yesterday and he wasn't eating properly just as I was about to accuse her she got all defensive and said "I didn't give him anything!" I still think she may have snuck him some chips under the table but I let it go anyway.
Fuuuuuuccccckkkk sometimes I just want to run away from them all!
Do it. Run away. Kick Ryota in the nuts first though!ReplyDelete
When I feel bad I read your posts and feel better.ReplyDelete
Set me up with Dog fucker and we'll secretly video her taking my unit in the mouth and blackmail her with it.
O.K., I just want that bitch to get on her knees for me but it could help you....maybe?...no?...I'm tryin to be helpful :)
I think she would like something bad to happen to the Dog Fucker. Not something good. Come on, you would give her experience in a field she never even looked at!Delete
Erm... I'd like to watch the vid though. :-D
Let's make our own video Michelle!! Corrine is taking to long with her answer ;)Delete
Take the kids and run away back to Oz. Think of all the nice Australian wine you could be enjoying!ReplyDelete
Run. This is clearly not getting any better and it seems to be breaking your spirit, little by little. These feelings are not normal "married with children and inlaws" feelings. Take your boys, and come back to Australia. Their Japanese family can visit them in Aus, and you can go back to Japan to visit with them. Just make the decision before you find out another 15 years has slipped by.ReplyDelete
Run! You only live once and I suspect you would be much happier living your life in Australia. I really agree with what was said in the previous comment. Btw, you are fabulous! People in Australia will celebrate your fabulousness and you will no longer be the lone outsider.ReplyDelete
I know you know this, but your husband really needs to get off his lazy ass. A grown man can't get his own natto to bring to the table? I would seriously lose it if I had to work as hard as you do and then run home to play maid/butler! Also, he needs to realize that the kids are his to look after too, without needing to be compensated in some way for "helping" you.ReplyDelete
If you do decide to separate, don't worry about being a single mom. My mom raised me by herself and, yeah, it was hard sometimes, but I never went without and I knew my mom did everything she did for my well-being. I'm sure your kids will understand that.
and further to above comment (different commentator) - You're a babe, and funny and a total catch. You're pretty much an Aussie guy's wet dream so while I think you'd be great at it, I also doubt you'd be a 'single mum' for long. You'd get snapped up!ReplyDelete