I thought I'd weigh up the pros and cons:
*A fusion of cultures
*Dual nationality for our kids
*Being able to help each other in the other language
*Having super cute kiddies (just look at mine! hehe)
*Funny language mistakes
*Always having relos to stay with in the other country
*A sense of individuality
*Learning how to cook food from partner's country.. OK I'm stretching now, I was trying to get 10, will leave the star just in case something hits me.
*Hating a part of the other culture but just having to live with it
*Kids being unbalanced in one language and therefore disadvantaged in the other
*Someone will always be homesick
*One set of grandparents will always miss out
*Having to cook/eat weird food (hello, uni!?) and engage in unfamiliar customs
*Not being able to argue or get an important point across properly in one language
*One person always more reliant on the other
*One person always feels a little 'out of place'
*One person always feeling like they are sacrificing things for their marriage/partner
Hmmm, didn't struggle as much with the cons... But I guess it depends on the individual couple too right. Sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing getting married in Japan, to a Japanese guy, it's definitely NOT how I imagined things would end up! Everyday things can get so much more stressful, you can feel stuck and stranded and alone.
Then again, this photo is possibly the best example of why I love being apart of an international marriage with a Japanese man...
The night before we "got married" (Quotation marks are because I was at work at the time!!! Ryota just went to the city office with my passport and inkan!) Ryota took me to a beautiful restaurant on top of a hill in Kobe, he said he was so sorry he couldn't afford to buy me an engagement ring and we had an incredibly romntic candlelit dinner.
We were moved to this private little room for dessert where they brought me this cake. The bad grammar made me laugh so hard, because I realised it didn't matter, the thought was there and that's all I needed.
We definitely have good days and bad days, but I think the good outweigh the bad.