Thursday 5 December 2013


I'm even too lazy to think of a title.

I always get a comment when I haven't blogged for a while telling me to get off my lazy arse and blog. Like a lot of people, I get all my frustrations out on social media and just tend to have not much to say anymore. Sad really.

Although my facebook page is TOTALLY censored because my parents check it daily. They may read my blog too but at least it's an unsaid thing and there is still some hope that they don't know every painful and horrible detail of my life. I write that like I live in a prison camp or something, actually I have it pretty damn good these days!
I'm working hard, got the house routine down like a pro housewife minus the cheating on my husband and eating bon bons, play on the weekends, jog every morning. Pretty damn normal!

There has been one thing that is really stressful lately though, and that is the fact that Ryota just needs to suck it the fuck up and deal with what he has to do. So Tuesdays and Wednesdays, I work through from 3-8, not that long, but over the pick/up/dinner/witching hours. Ryota has to pick the kids up from 2 different kindies, get them home and feed them the dinner which I've already cooked, so just heat up basically. But without fail, every time I get home, he looks like he's just run a marathon, in a hurricane... with no shoes on and two small people attacking him. OK, the last one about 2 small people attached to him and attacking with toys/chopsticks/any sharp object is probably true, but fuck me he needs to get over it, 2 hours watching kids is not that fucking hard if you're organised about it. Of course, it's hard to say thing directly, because he goes on a rant about how he's been working hard all day and then has to look after the kids by himself, and it's a valid point, but again, no fucking bon bon eating here, I'm working!

So we got into it the other night because I tried to give him some advice, I basically told him the kids would be grumpy if they were hungry, so first priority should be to fill bellies, after that, snacks, TV, anything to keep them quiet is fine. I also suggested that he clean things as he goes, because the house that I've cleaned in the day is just a complete mess whenever I get home. I asked him why I manage to keep some kind of order when I look after the kids and he got really pissed off and told me I should finish work at 6pm, we need me to be a good mother more than the money. Which really fucking stung, and it shouldn't of, it should've just made me pissed. We don't need the fucking money?! Well not now because I earn enough! So I left the room, took some deep breaths and forgot about his comments until the next day when I calmly explained that I didn't want to go there girlfriend, but if you want to start your own business, we need my income to be stable, so please not to go spouting shit from your mouth in an argument about me working too much and neglecting my family. Which he actually listened to and apologised for (I'm getting so much fucking better at this marriage thing!).

So the night routine thing is a bit of a sore subject for us at the moment, I'm sure they'll be a big blow up in the near future, but seriously, 2 hours of kid watching 2 days a week and he's walking around like he's a single dad 24/7, fucking drama queen twat he is.


  1. I love the fact he complains it is so hard but won't accept any suggestion on how to make it not so hard. Bet he doesn't ask for directions either :-)

  2. Typical male in that respct

  3. Those are the men. Supposed to be strong and shit, but in fact they're pretty weak. Especially in getting organised. There ARE exeptions, but those are rare.
    Next time snap a picture of him with the two little ones attacking him. :-D Must look too funny!

    btw... "it shouldn't of" instead of "it shouldn't have"?? Why do people do that? It's makes everything so complicated for non-native speakers... And why would anyone confuse "of" and "have"? I don't get that. You have no idea how weird that is to read for someone like me... absolutely puzzling. ^^

  4. Fathers that do not think they should participate in child care really irritate me. Even if you were out having fun, a few hours break would be nice of him to give to you.

  5. I'm glad to hear you're doing good and he appologized. ^_^

    This post actually made me feel about a lot better about my bf (also a clueless japanese man) whom i've just had an argument with. haha. it's like sometimes they just say shit without realizing how stupid/hurtful it is... like their brain just works in one (self-centered) direction, you know? ha. but seeing you get a handle on the marriage thing, it gives me hope! lol.

  6. What's with blokes not cleaning up as they go with cooking? Every male I've lived with has been like it. Like if you are in the kitchen waiting for something to cook, put shit away and maybe wash up instead of just standing around staring into space. You'd think it'd be just common sense.

    1. What crawled up your butt and died, Shonan Love? You need to chill out.

  7. Corinne, I think that Ryota gets stressed and plays the "Bad/Good Mother" card on you because he knows that you are very sensitive to that. You love your children and want and strive to be an excellent mother. He knows that will get to you.